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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why arent you expecting this help from your own parents?[/quote]

Oh, good one!!!  Right on target.[/quote]

OP, any response to the FP's question?  You're full of answers to other questions trying to justify your whining.  Wondering why you're not expecting your own parents to pay for your kids when you're feeling oh so slighted by your FIL.  I don't get it.[/quote]

OP here. I never expected anyone to pay for my kids’ education. Hence, I scrimped and saved in 529’s from their infancy. I get what you’re all saying about how it’s his money and can do whatever he wants with it. It’s more that the money is yet another sign of favoritism (albeit born out of trying to equalize nephew’s situation when his own parents couldn’t). For example, grandparents took him on trips to museums and vacations when they never did that for my kids. Whenever nephew came over to their house, MIL would stock fridge with his favorite foods and drinks. Take him out to his favorite seafood or steak restaurant. She doesn’t even know what my kids’ favorite foods are. She took my daughter out for lunch once in 5 years to chik fil-a and she knows my daughter is a vegetarian. They will fly or drive to see him or pay for plane tickets to see him. My kids live 1/2 hour drive from them and they only see them on holidays if we bring them by. No attempt to get to know my kids.

I also get what everyone is saying that I should be grateful for my kids’ success. And I am. Our family has a lot of gifts that other families just don’t have. It’s not like my kids don’t have struggles though. Some significant issues actually. I never said nephew is bad/lazy and my kids are angels. It’s not that black and white. I don’t expect equal treatment monetarily, but more emotional investment. I brought up money because it’s quantifiable, but that’s not the point.[/quote]

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