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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Father paid off my sister’s kids college loans. She makes a decent living but choose to have 3 kids. I am a divorced single Mom but a successful one...my kid did not get anything.  Guess what? I don’t really care. It’s his money and I’d rather my nieces and nephews get it than my stepmother (the OW).[/quote]

Is your kid now paying for student loans?  If so, maybe your kid cares that your dad put the others first?[/quote]

No. I paid for his college.[/quote]

If your kid had put himself through college largely with scholarships, attending a less expensive university, working retail....Would you feel a bit sad for your kid that his cousin had everything handed to them?  How do you think your kid would feel to see his grandparent pay his cousin's student loans while he worked his butt off to stay out of debt?

Now imagine that the cousin not only had their student loans paid off by a grandparent but also got kicked out of school and has nothing to show for the grandparent's investment?

That is what Op is dealing with and I feel bad for Op her kids.[/quote]

Easy to understand the OP feels her family is being slighted, especially if she isn't close enough to the situation to know/understand why her FIL did so.  But once the loan is taken out in the grandfather's name, he really had no choice but to pay it back.  It's not clear if this was a financial hardship for him or if he is loaded.

But please STOP calling OP names and impugning her character. And for those in a position to be giving/leaving money, please consider the effect on the less favored relatives.  It's your money, but do you want it to leave behind children and grandchildren who don't understand why they were treated inequitably?

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I'm not sure what OP is trying to accomplish by coming on here and complaining. Because that's what's she's doing. Complaining.

She has kids who are successfully going through college. They won merits, they are solid students, they will/are getting degrees and will be prepared for the adult world. They have a cousin who clearly has problems. And OP is complaining that it's unfair. She should count her lucky stars.

If I were OP I'd be very thankful my kids weren't their cousin.

The money is simply not her money or her children's money. She has no business nor claim nor justification to think it is equitably her children's money that is being spent on the wastrel. OP is really not being an adult about this.

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