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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"if he's giving them a bath, he's on his iPhone while they're bathing instead of playing with them"

If I co-parented with someone who criticized things such as this, I probably wouldn't regret having kids, but I might regret choosing to parent with this person.  [/quote]

OP again - I'm not saying that you to be a perfect parent all the time.  But I gave that example because I wonder if my kids notice that daddy is always doing something else instead of playing with them or interacting with them.  Sometimes my daughter asks him questions 4-5 times and he ignores her bc he's on his phone and finally I just answer.  It's pretty obvious that if he had the choice, he would never be with them.  I was telling a story about someone who had multiple nannies covering essentially 24 hours a day and he said "I wish I had that much money so I could pay someone else to play with them."  And it's obvious he feels this way by his actions.[/quote]

OP, you sound very kind.  Your husband sounds like a jerk. Kids pick up on things very early in age and I would fear his attitude would hurt your children’s self esteem.  You need to have a serious talk with him and possibly see a couples therapist....one that could explain how your husband’s words and actions could emotionally hurt his children.  I wouldn’t be able to live with a man who seemed to dislike his children so much.  Yes, they are young, but each age brings it’s own challenges and need for love, guidance and patience.  I’m not sure your husband will be able to provide that.  I would seriously tell him that if he can’t get help, be more pleasant or at least keep his mouth shut, you will divorce him.  You will not have to worry about custody as it would be an answer to his prayers.  You and the kids are a package deal.  It really hurts my heart to think a dad would feel this way, much less act on it and say it out loud. You and your kids deserve better.[/quote]

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