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[quote=Anonymous]I have three kids (3 born in 4.5yrs) and pregnant with my 4th. Here is my rundown:
- scheduled csections w all of them, and I think bottom line is there is no fantastic way to have a baby. I HATED every minute of that surgery - was traumatic for me - that being said, I recovered well from all of them. Get up and get moving as soon as you can, carefully of course, and the better shape you go into pregnancy, the better shape you will be coming out. Just a fact.

- breastfeeding can be hard w one kid, easy w another. Some of it has to do with you, some with baby. My second baby was a breeze to BF and I did it for over a year. My first and third were harder, third I just didn’t have the supply to meet her demands. I gave myself so much guilt but I formula fed at night and then gave up after 6months bc I was driving myself insane. She’s perfectly healthy and smart! Also - I did not feel normal or get my energy or body back until after I finished BFing.

- my pregnancies were not great and I always felt more comfortable having a healthy newborn baby outside of my body than inside. But I had help and support in the newborn phase, and I am SO grateful for that.

- this may sounds cold or callous, but the night I got home from the hospital I put the baby in a bassinet in the crib in their own room ... never really co slept, unless they were sick. I tried to get them on a feeding and sleep schedule as quickly as I could without depriving them of course, and then sleep trained when they were old enough. I will say all three of my kids did really well with a sleep schedule and to this day are awesome sleepers. It was HARD at first, but i would hear from countless friends about sleep and feeding issues for months, and I didn’t experience that with none of my kids. However realizing that every baby is different and I may have just been lucky w all three.

- the early years are physically exhausting, but pls remember that it’s true most of the decisions and worries you agonize over won’t be big deals. I’m 11yrs into parenting and the nice part is that you get more relaxed with experience. Kids take their anxiety cues from you .... so if you need therapy or meds, do it!

- I thought 6mos to 2yrs was totally dreamy and sweet. Toddlers can be tough - if they are opinionated or have fears, development issues, etc. But they do grow out of it.

- you do not need a lot of baby crap! But as you need, not beforehand.

Hope this helps 
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