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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many of you are just lucky and don’t get it. My MIL is not a bad person and we don’t have major issues, but she’s not easy to be close to. Her visits are stressful and yes, I do vent online. She makes snarky comments about our home and my body, is not a nice house guest (super messy and doesn’t pick up after herself), and is very hands off with the children, which is fine, they aren’t her children. But she is constantly complaining she’s hurt and offended they aren’t more excited to see her when she visits. Lady, you can bring towers upon towers of gifts, but if you spend your visit sipping wine on the couch instead of playing with the baby and toddler, they aren’t going to feel close to you. She arrives unhappy, complains and snarks at us, and leaves unhappy - and we all feel relieved. I feel sorry for her because she’s lonely and we are all she has. I am civil and welcoming and just bite my tongue 99% of the time. But I’m not going to go out of my way for someone who is not particularly nice to me and never has been. [/quote]

And this is it isn't it.  It's unpleasant being around someone who is passive aggressive and constantly takes digs at you.  Would any of us have friends or socialise with someone who did that, no you wouldn't.  Why is it so hard to understand that someone that is constantly putting you down, complaining or lying about you to your partner or criticising you is so unpleasant to be around.  Perhaps for one visit it would be easy enough to shrug off but who wants to spend a lot of time around people like that.  Why is that so hard for some people to understand.[/quote]

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