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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the parents and/or the niece don't ask how she can pitch in or about paying rent, I would not agree to this.

Anyone with any common courtesy is going to recognize this as a huge favor and will, at the very least, offer to pitch in some rent money and groceries.

[b]It is not o.k. to EXPECT a family member to support you for two months.  [/b][/quote]

That's where you're wrong..

The family asked if their daughter could stay and the OP said yes... no expectation there, they asked and she said yes.

If OP wanted to treat her niece like a tenant, she should have mentioned money to them when they asked.

I think taking her in is a horrible idea.  
OP says she's "kind of" a neat freak, which means that she's probably very type A with a tendency towards being OCD, especially when her things aren't put back in the exact place they were before (like full on freak out if the spices aren't put back in alphabetical order).

If the OP is indeed rigid and hard to live with (she needs to ask herself this and be honest) this co-habitation will be a recipe for disaster, and resentment & anger will be inevitable for the OP.

I feel terrible for your niece - it sounds like the OP is a difficult, rigid person and someone with Asperger's *cannot* pick up on the social cues, especially someone who's being passive- aggressive or resentful towards them and she will not understand why the OP it's treating her the way she is.

OP needs to do a lot of research on Asperger's before her niece's visit. I don't care if you've known this girl her entire life, living with someone with Asperger's is different than seeing them 4 or 5 times a year.

** OP doing her research on Asperger's is an absolute MUST if she wants this too be a successful stay. 
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OP wants help with the extra expenses like food and utilities.  She was clear they have different food and shopping and spending habits.[/quote]

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