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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Oh wow holy crap at the assumptions. You all are making me out to be some horrid witch.

In my original question, I never ever said I expected full rent, but simply wondered what was common in these situations and what solutions others have found to be agreeable.

I have many aunts and uncles and never received so much as a birthday card from them as a kid or adult - so please forgive me and understand that families and people's experiences are different. I've been there for birthdays, graduations, xmas, etc, and am involved with all my niece and nephews. Hell I didn't even get a "thank you" from several of them (including this one niece) for xmas gifts. It's not a big deal. I love them, and I don't give with expectations. I'm doing the best I can.

My brother's family is not poor. They have bought their kids new cars upon getting a driver's license. They give their kids a lot, which is great that they can. They put a lot of 'Whole Food' on the table (I'm more Trader Joe's). I eat lots of plant based foods, and not a lot of meat or pricier things.

This isn't a week - a 19/20 year old can go though a LOT of food in 2 months.

And while I get that her asperger's is not her fault, it can cause her to be a bit flakey. Leave electrics on, take long showers, be forgetful about a lot of things. And as another pp mentioned, yes, breaking things is probably inevitable. She will not have a car, and while public transportation will be used a lot of the time, I imagine I will be driving her around a lot. Some of it is nature, much of it is nurture, and my personal experience of a 19/20 year old is very, very different than her reality. I was on my own and taking care of my parents at that age.

But that's besides the point. I was asking this more along the lines of: "hey, is asking/accepting $150/month for food/utilities reasonable" - and not "hey, can you fork over 2k for rent for each of these 2 months." That would be absurd. 
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