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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was kinda ready to say you’re overreacting, but those are young kids that need supervision.  I can see the 6 year olds running between houses, but at 2 and 3 the little ones will obviously need close supervision.  Do they send the younger child over regularly?[/quote]

Yes. They think it's unfair to send the 6 yo because their 3 yo gets upset if the 6 yo comes over without her. [/quote]

And then they expect the nanny to watch all four kids at their house?  Oy, yea, they’re too much.   I get that you might want to handle this a bit carefully.  I think the plan to do classes is a good one.   Sorry, op, I see the issue now.  [/quote]

Thanks, I'm really struggling with this because we truly love the other family and value their friendship. We love their children. I love the bonds that my children have grown to have with theirs and I even love the idea of all the kids playing every afternoon. But ultimately, I have to have my childcare situation stable and I feel like they're throwing a wrench into it whenever they see an opportunity for themselves. The only way I can think to fix this without doing irreparable harm to our relationship is to do things like sign the kids up for classes, tell the nannies to the kids to more after school activities, etc. I'm just so frustrated and I really appreciate you all letting me vent. [/quote]

You need to set boundaries at home too. Start by inviting other children over for play dates. Have the nanny tell the neighbors  that play dates have to go through you. Every time.

You need to ask MB or DB should be what they nanny says every single time. Nanny “doesn’t know” the kids exact plans every day.

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How does it help to have other kids over for playdates? The nanny is still watching other peoples' kids. Either you want that FOR YOUR OWN CHILDREN or you don't. I'm sure OP's kids love playing with the neighbors every day.[/quote]

The point is reciprocation.[/quote]

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