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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it is ENTIRELY fair to expect your Mom to her life. Period. You are all grown-ups now - responsible for working through your own challenges (as you clearly are.) Your mother is asking too much of you, and in doing so is also refusing to move through/beyond what happened. You are not responsible for her, for her feelings on her marriage, for staying with her in a stuck place of pain, etc... Also, if/when you start changing your boundaries and dynamics with her it might actually start changing some of her behaviors in ways you can't anticipate. My therapist frequently reminds me that when I start behaving more healthily/appropriately with my family it injects health and functionality into an unhealthy and dysfunctional space. So me doing what's best for me can have positive ripples in the long run. In any case, I think you are handling this well and know what you need to do. I totally support you. Good luck.[/quote]
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