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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the solo parent for the week works then they should get to tag out immediately. If they are a SAH then they shouldn’t completely check out. They should give the traveling spouse a tiny bit of time to decompress, or at least share the duties.[/quote]

Yeah, no. Flip that. If you’re working out of the home you are getting at least a few child free moments in the day. Working while the other parent is out of the country it’s not easy. I’ve been at home while my husband travels overseas and I’ve worked while he travels. While there is its own set of stressors being the only working parent in the house, not being able to be alone at all as SAHP for days/weeks on end is surreal and exhausting. [/quote]

This. My husband travels for weeks at a time and for a lot of that our child’s sleep sucked - constant night waking, took forever to put to sleep, etc so I was getting by with barely any sleep plus coming down with major illnesses (had the stomach bug so bad once that I couldn’t stand beyond going to the bathroom while still nursing) while having no help caring for our son while he was gone. You better believe I expected him to step up ASAP even with transatlantic + transcontinental travel. He slept uninterrupted for two weeks, was able to go out and socialize, slept in (our son has always been up by 5/6 am), and could have 2 minutes alone to pee without a screaming toddler outside the door. He’s gone out to see movies while on travel. [/quote]

[b]Imagine dealing with that AND working. Get it?[/b]

I stand by my statement. If you WOH then you have a huge number of additional stressors and things taking up your mental energy. You need that break. If you SAH, unless you’re doing it wrong, you have preschool or gym daycare or nap time to give you a break, or worst case you can hire a babysitter for a few hours.[/quote]

I’m confused. You take care of your kids full time while working? Every workplace I’ve ever heard of had strict policies against that.

If you have a nanny or daycare, then you are absolutely not dealing with the same thing AND working. Get over yourself.  :roll: [/quote]

Please re-read what the PP wrote:

[quote] My husband travels for weeks at a time and for a lot of that our child’s sleep sucked - constant night waking, took forever to put to sleep, etc so I was getting by with barely any sleep plus coming down with major illnesses (had the stomach bug so bad once that I couldn’t stand beyond going to the bathroom while still nursing) while having no help caring for our son while he was gone. [/quote]

Nannies and daycares don't help you out with nighttime sleep issues and stomach bugs. Dealing with those *and* having to go to the office with meetings, deadlines, politics is a hell of a lot more stressful than being able to stay at home and half-ass your way through a day with kids. I don't see how this is even a debatable point. [/quote]

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