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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the solo parent for the week works then they should get to tag out immediately. If they are a SAH then they shouldn’t completely check out. They should give the traveling spouse a tiny bit of time to decompress, or at least share the duties.[/quote]

Yeah, no. Flip that. If you’re working out of the home you are getting at least a few child free moments in the day. Working while the other parent is out of the country it’s not easy. I’ve been at home while my husband travels overseas and I’ve worked while he travels. While there is its own set of stressors being the only working parent in the house, not being able to be alone at all as SAHP for days/weeks on end is surreal and exhausting. [/quote]

This. My husband travels for weeks at a time and for a lot of that our child’s sleep sucked - constant night waking, took forever to put to sleep, etc so I was getting by with barely any sleep plus coming down with major illnesses (had the stomach bug so bad once that I couldn’t stand beyond going to the bathroom while still nursing) while having no help caring for our son while he was gone. You better believe I expected him to step up ASAP even with transatlantic + transcontinental travel. He slept uninterrupted for two weeks, was able to go out and socialize, slept in (our son has always been up by 5/6 am), and could have 2 minutes alone to pee without a screaming toddler outside the door. He’s gone out to see movies while on travel. [/quote]

Imagine dealing with that AND working. Get it?

I stand by my statement. If you WOH then you have a huge number of additional stressors and things taking up your mental energy. You need that break. If you SAH, unless you’re doing it wrong, you have preschool or gym daycare or nap time to give you a break, or worst case you can hire a babysitter for a few hours.[/quote]

I understand what the pp above yours is saying.

SAHPs don't generally hire childcare during the day, that's what their job is.

And depending on the age of the child, preschool and gym daycare may not be an option, it isn't always an issue of "not doing it right".

[b]It's the daily grind of not getting a break from childcare that is the issue when the spouse has returned from travel, and working parents do get that break in a say that a SAHP doesn't.[/b][/quote]

Working parents do not get a "break" - they go to work! And if you're tired, it's a lot easier to half-ass your day at home with kids than it is during a day full of meetings.

And yes, I do think you are "not doing it right" as a SAHP if you don't have some form of temporary relief like a gym daycare, babysitter, or a fellow SAHP who can watch your kids for a couple of hours so you get a break.[/quote]

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-1 The "break" being referred to is from childcare.  [/quote]

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