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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Statistically married  men live longer and healthier lives than unmarried men. Now is that because they are married or those types tend to get married and take fewer risks. Don't know. [/quote]

But married women live shorter, less healthy lives than their single counterparts.

I think the title should be what do women get out of it. Men I understand. Women are less clear to me.[/quote]

Women used to get shelter, food, security in exchange for childbearing, independence. Now that everbing is an equal partnership? Women get he short end of the stick.

All things being equal
We both make $X
We both have degrees
We both want children

Unless we are adopting ...
Only ONE of us has the physical impairment of pregnancy for an entire year, sometimes two. Not to mention another 12 months offering a milky boob on demand. Then parenting defaults to us because kids prefer mom very often. It’s not equal. It’s at least 90 measurable days out of the workforce where we cannot produce income easily and contribute to 401k, make career moves, etc.

Yet. Everyone leverages something and brings something to the table, each relationship is different.[/quote]

But in the old days, married women lived even shorter lives on average. The fact is in pure life expectancy, marriage strongly benefits men but seems to harm women. Being an older single woman is typically a marker of longer life expectancy, while the opposite.is true for men.

Quite frankly I don't really get what most women get out of marriage if those women have the ability to work themselves. On a personal note, certainly the divorced women in their 50s/60s with good jobs seem the happiest of my various circles.[/quote]

Well first off women always have out lived men. It’s because men did jobs that were dangerous- construction, drivers, farm work, factor work, wars and they died in higher numbers vs women. Secondly many women marry and take easy, less stressful jobs. They work part time, volunteering  or take jobs they want because the husband works a job he has too. [/quote]

That doesn't explain why married women consistently in studies have shorter lives and worse health than their single counterparts.[/quote]

We don’t need research to explain why that happens, do we?  :lol: [/quote]

Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.[/quote]

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