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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And/or, I would tell her in a no-bull$hit, drop-dead tone that she had better not do this. Tell her if she humiliates him and makes him feel terrible about himself on Christmas, that will ruin her relationship with him, irreparably harm her relationship with you, and it will DEFINITELY be the last Christmas you spend with her for a long, long time. [/quote]

This, +1000!!![/quote]

Honestly, this is what I would do too.   One word about his weight, and next year’s Christmas is off the table.  Her choice.

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I would do this.  Tell her exactly what the consequences will be if she goes ahead with her idea.  This is actually the fairest option.  You get to state your boundary and if your mother chooses to ignore you then she is already aware of the outcome.

I think it would be unfair to just not do Christmas this year.  Although she has said it, she hasn't actually done it and perhaps she was mentioning it to see what you thought.  At this point you just need to honestly communicate with her. Then you need to trust that she will listen and if she doesn't listen then you need to follow through with the repercussions.

Just do it calmly and don't engage in discussion with her about it, tell her this is the way it will be.  From there she can choose.[/quote]

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