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[quote=Anonymous]OP I could make guesses all day as to what is really going on- but at the end of the day- giving up and not caring or asking for sex is NOT going to make her suddenly have a new increased libido. 
You said she brought up scheduling it again. It sounds like she was trying to make an effort- and instead you dismiss it?. If you regularly scheduled it, both of you might become more interested in it over time naturally. You can’t blame this all on her- she is offering. Maybe it’s not the offer you want- but she was trying to take a step forward.

Let me ask you something- do you take her out on dates? Do you get away from the kids just the two of you? You need to do that or things will not improve. Do you spend time talking to her at the end of the day? talking about meaningful things in your life? That is what builds intimacy and women need intimacy to be interested in sex.  Women are wired differently.
 
I somewhat know how your wife is feeling. I have a stressful job, and we have a special needs child. Day to day stress makes me completely not interested in sex. However if we are able to  go out on dates- and I have several drinks to take the edge off , then I am much more in the mood. The more we have sex the more interested I am. The longer we go without it- the less I miss it.

If going on dates, spending time together and just talking with each other doesn’t help the situation- then perhaps consider therapy. Do not just quit on your marriage without trying to work it out. Don’t make guesses as to why she isn’t interested- ask her about it- talk it out. [/quote]

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