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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mine is the most common of problems.  I want to have better and more frequent sex and intimacy, she wants to be left alone.  We used to schedule once a week, or so (worked out to 2-3x a month) but most of the time she clearly would have preferred to be left alone.

So after years of this dynamic, I have backed off.  Going on 4 months, no sex.  At first, it really, really sucked but now I really don't miss sex with her.  Definitely less resentment, ironically.  She has mentioned about scheduling it again, but I am skeptical this is anything but her feeling guilty about not doing something I used to push for.

Question - do women regain libido if they are left alone for a while?  Meaning, can desire rebuild over time?  Anyone successfully used a long sex break as a positive step?[/quote]

I could have written this 20 years ago. “DW” suggested if I backed off a little maybe she’d be more inclined to have sex with me. So, I backed off. Our sex life went from infrequent to nonexistent. Like you, I found I didn’t muss sex with her, but that was only because I came to resent her, and us, intensely. 
I ultimately left after almost 10 years of this and my youngest graduating from high school. 
Looking back, perhaps if I handled things differently we could have saved our marriage. Who knows.[/quote]

OP here, really appreciate this.  It is interesting that the longer we go without having sex, the less I care.  Like, we used to go a week and I craved her but now months go by and I don't miss it   I wonder where this leads, and I suspect she does too since she mentioned sex once.

The opposite of love is indifference[/quote]

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