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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd trust this advice a lot more if we had more couples chiming in, saying, "Yup, our sex life was on life support, he took some stuff off my plate, and it perked right up."

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Wife here who started out marriage/life with high libido. Slowly died down to 1x per week due to outside stressors, all already been said. 
Therapy and a DH who stepped it up worked for us. I began to see him as a partner (and sexual partner) and not just another task or person demanding something from me. 
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Once my DH started helping out more and treating me as a priority our sex life picked up - we are back to 3/4 times a week.  [b]I don’t think men get how built up resentment kills desire[/b] (at least my DH didn’t).  FWIW I work outside of the home and have two kids.  [/quote]

Based on some PP's, I think they get it, but not until it's too late.  So you have these guys replying saying "I backed off and then she asked for sex but I didn't want it anymore with her, so I got a divorce."  She stopped wanting sex with him due to resentment, then he resented her for the period of no sex.  But neither side sees what the other is saying because what they want from each other (emotional support from him so that she wants sex again vs. emotional support from her in the form of sex) is strangely at odds.[/quote]

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