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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be really helpful for a post like this to list out the specific information (i.e. annual salaries, total respective retirement savings, ages, etc.).  [/quote]

Why?

This is about money but it's not. Reading the OP and her follow up, I'm guessing OP would be happy to "subsidize" her DH's retirement and be all in, if he were. As long as he's [b]choosing his ex's feelings over hers [/b]about child support, he's not all in.[/quote]

The ex has borderline personality disorder.  I assume you have no idea what someone with that disorder is like.  He's not "choosing his ex's feelings" over op's, he's protecting himself and his kids (and op!) from her mental illness.   People with BPD can be downright scary when they are raging.  Pursuing her for money would be a losing proposition.  This is not a run-of-the-mill ex-wife and divorce, where two parties simply lost interest in each other.  I have no doubt that she was abusive to him and the kids.  The fewer interactions they have with her, the better.  [/quote]

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