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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^ these two are lucky that their kids aren’t an “embarrassment to the DA”[/quote]

So there is the crux of the disagreement. Some parents consider that language abusive and others consider it rude, but not abusive, and indicative of something the kid may experience out in the real world. Should coaches use that language? No. Is it abusive? That’s a matter of opinion and parents are free to make their choice about staying or leaving. [/quote]

Correct.  And for those of us who have chosen to leave and not subject our kids to that type of an environment over something as trivial as soccer, there are apparently people who rather say "you were cut" or "denied an offer" instead of recognizing a choice has been made.    But hey, if that's what they need to say to justify why they stay, have at it.  [/quote]

I don't assume everyone else was cut or not offered.  There's a right fit for every child, plenty of places to choose from around here.  But, the thought that FCV parents sit by and allow their kids to be abused all in the name of some wins and scholarships is just not accurate.  That talk should stop.  No parent in their right mind at any club is going to tolerate that.  [/quote]

Then perhaps FCV parents should lay off the attacks of other clubs then if they can't take any criticism themselves. [/quote]

uhmmmm okay.  I'm not whoever those parents are, so I don't criticize anyone for their club choice.  Wouldn't waste my time attacking anyone for that.  Just trying to shed dispell this myth that FCV parents only care about winning and are somehow sacrificing their children's well-being for it.  It's just not the case.[/quote]

You must be new here then. [/quote]

Naw, just clearing up this crazy notion.  I'm sure you'll find a lunatic or two at every club, but most soccer parents are similar in that they choose the best environment for their player and spend no time bashing other parents for their own choice.  [/quote]

Well, we feel so sorry for you. Bless your heart.[/quote]

Huh?  What the heck is that?  Why do you feel sorry for me?  What's with all that snark?  I haven't been snarky at all.  Why can't it just be a normal conversation without all that?  Nevermind, my fault for trying to be reasonable on this board.  [/quote]

FCV parent crying because folks criticize the club. Go read some tweets to feel better.[/quote]

We have different definitions of crying. Lol.  This was all about parents allowing kids to be abused. I’m just saying that’s not how it is but I guess you’d rather fight and not make sense so I’ll leave you to it. [/quote]

You are too dumb to realize that just because you (one parent) says something it must be true for the whole club.  Idiot.
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So, you really think an entire club of parents are sitting around while their kids are abused and doing nothing about it?  Okay. Also, you won’t get a rise out of me with the ‘dumb’ and ‘idiot’ stuff. I’ll let you throw around the insults all you want. You sound so angry about a club that means nothing to you. [/quote]

Didn’t someone post that Bobby isn’t allowed to coach the youngest age group anymore??

Obviously not you, but it seems like SOMEONE is clued in. [/quote]

No group of parents would be sitting around watching their kids be abused for wins.  [/quote]

Considering you're not allowed near the practice field you wouldn't know it unless your kids were constantly complaining. The problem is, these coaches hold tremendous power over ambitious kids and parents. If a kid has ambitions of playing in college they, as well as the parents have been convinced that FCV is the only pathway. The coaches hold the cards. The coaches make the NTC recommendations to US Soccer, the coaches can choose to work on behalf of a player with a college coach or not. The coach can determine WHEN a player plays in a showcase. If you are in the dog house you might get magically pulled as the college coach just arrived to watch. The coaches decide who they'll talk up or not.

In short, there is a lot control by the coaches and kids and parents live in a state of anxiety over roster spots, playing time etc. [/quote]

This is so very true.  If Bobby likes you - off to the NTC.  And he just might call a college coach back.  Bobby doesnt like you - nope - no colleges are interested in you.  Sooo many kids have gone on to successful soccer careers without him. He is a hack.

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Based on the PR campaign Bobby does for the college commits, that can't be true.  He and the club seem all about sharing how many of the girls are go off to play college soccer.  [/quote]

The kids do their own leg work and frankly they should always expect to do the leg work. The problem is Bobby has the parents believe that he is the rainmaker for your kid when in reality it is your own kid that needs to do 98% of the work. But parents have their kids sit and play 20 minutes a game just hoping to get Bobby's blessing and the other kids back stab each other for the same blessing. The general atmosphere is toxic.[/quote]

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