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[quote=Anonymous]I like most of your intended discussion with your DD.   I would put it in writing, and probably online.  This is because it is so much to digest; it needs to be reviewed; re-read...and probably bounced off her peers who will cool her off.

My DH needed to have a hard conversation with my SIL, years ago.  He put it in an email.  I didn't like that there would be a record, frozen in time. But he planned for that.  He did this because he said, if he spoke with her, her memory of the conversation would be all twisted, and only parts of it would be retained.  But in an email, she can read it 100 times, and every single time, it would say the same thing, nothing more, nothing less.

Now with respect to paying for her college, just pay it OP.  You are choosing to put your foot down at the wrong time and it's too strong a punishment.  Just get her fledged and on the road to living independently.  If she's still horrible, after the teen hormones etc die down, then you can then withold financially and there will be no boomerang-to-your-basement effect.

And remember, teens push hard against their parents to make sure they are there for them, and she is pushing really hard, probably because she feels (rightly or wrongly) that you've abandoned her in the past.  She is probably highly verbal, and the highly verbal girls are the worst.  Because any skill or ability a teen has can be weaponized; in this case, she's weaponized her mouth.  It can be rough.  But she may not even know it--that she is testing you, daring you to abandon her again.  Don't abandon her.  Be her rock.[/quote]

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