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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The threats of "ending the gravy train" ... "make him pay for things" ... and "the party is over after graduation, bud!" get you nowhere with kids like this. Unmotivated loafers have no future orientation and little impulse control. They simply do not give a $%!#, it's like talking to a brick wall.

And expecting someone like this to become a sales ace merely because they have a social life is comical. The best sales careers are hyper-competitive (read: personality PLUS great grades PLUS great internships PLUS great club involvement) with a deep, aggressive and sharp candidate pool.[/quote]

Hey, that's some helpful advice there pal!  Nice job telling someone their kid is a nonredeemable loser with no future!

OP, please ignore this anonyramus.[/quote]

Well said. Yikes. Some angry judgmental people here. There’s more than just two kinds of kids, hard-working winners and lazy losers. My kid was the latter in high school. Took I think 11 or 12 APs, indicating ambition, but didn’t have anywhere near close to the work ethic to get more than a mix of A’s B’s and even a couple of C’s. It was hard to watch and I tried every motivational tool in the book. (Unicorn indeed - so true.) A good T25 LAC took a flyer on him - possibly wanting his 1520 - and so he went off with his crappy habits and proceeded to collect the same mediocre grades. I, like the OP, thought he would finally get it. Poor executive functioning in young men is a thing, and it does change. But no, not at first.

Fast forward two years and he is a much better student. He survived the crappy first few semesters at a high cost to his GPA (which will never completely recover) and finally began to string together some really good work. He’ll finish over 3.0 but not by a whole lot, but he’s in a demanding major (mathematical economics) and now in his senior year he’s getting some early recruiting nibbles. I’m sure some will eliminate him for the not so great GPA but that’s cool. He earned that.

Just wanted to offer a different perspective and hope for some who have kids with crappy habits and/or don’t seem to care. [/quote]

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