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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been a SAHM for a long time. All of my kids are in HS now and in a few years I will be an empty nester. My youngest two are twins and they will leave at the same time. For a long time, I was also the care taker for my ILs and my dad. They have passed away as well in the last few years. I have been very iucky to be home with the kids and I have a full life - friends, volunteering, neighbors, family etc.  Over the years, I have also been taking random classes at the community college in subjects other than what I have degrees in-  so I am pretty well informed about a lot of things.

I am incredibly happy being at home and I do not have to work for monetary reasons.  Thinking ahead about how I will deal with having all my kids leave the nest - especially the twins -  I started to wonder what I want to do next. My choices range from finding new hobbies (I already have some), volunteering (i do some already), traveling, working (I was in the corporate world before), or starting a business (can't think what though).  Anyways, an opportunity came my way and I accepted it and started working just before kids school closed for summer.  I thought that I won't have to worry about them during the break and they are grown up enough to deal with things in my absence.

Well, here is what I found out.  I just hate my job. I have a gruelling 10 hour day (2 hours is commuting), and an hour to get up and get ready and I still have a lot of things pending once I get home.  There is nothing in the job that is interesting or uplifting. It is stressful, repetitive, neverending, boring and the entire office seems to be working in a crisis mode,  My work requires a lot of juggling and many moving parts and I pretty much do not move from my desk for the 8 hours I am there. I don't talk to anyone, I don't socialize, I don't take breaks,  I don't browse - I just do not have the time.  After each day is over, I regret missing out this summer with my kids, I regret putting my body through this, I regret wasting even a minute on this job, and I regret my decision to take this on. I know that I am privileged because I can afford to stay at home, but, this job - the time it sucks up,  physical-emotional toll, stress, the utter meaninglessness of this job for me, and the time away from family, life and leisure that I am used to - is making me seriously miserable. I am useless physically, emotionally and mentally, when I get home and I have nothing to give to my family. I have actually had to stop everything else I was doing before starting to work - being there for kids and my mom, being a volunteer, spending time with my DH, cooking for my kids, vacation etc, because I am so tired and out of time.

Do I soldier on? They like me a lot at work, but I am just not happy working there. I also suspect that I am not cut out for a full time job at my age and after years of having a lot of flexibility in my day - the daily grind is not for me. I feel as if I am missing out on life, unnecessarily. The grass was  certainly greener under my feet.

The job itself has the potential to offer some long term strategic opportunities. I can understand that and probably got swayed by that, but those are not necessarily opportunities I wanted and these are not really my dreams. Leaving this job will close a door for ever,  Do I need to care about keeping this door open? Should I leave? Am I a fool for thinking of leaving? If money was not a reason for working, would you advise to stick it out?

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You have a vagina.

So do what all the other women wish they could do.  Quit and take care of your husband so he takes care of you financially 
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