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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m only interested in hearing from other adult only children. Particularly moms with small children. How do you manage feelings of loneliness? Jealousy of friends and even your spouse who have built-in support? I’m generally very positive but every time I go through a milestone (having a baby, baptism, 40th birthday, parent illness, etc) I’m reminded of how ALONE I am in the world. Yes, I have friends. I’m very involved in my community. But at the end of the day, everyone else has family to count on. To plan and host events. To travel with. To navigate caring for aging parents with. My parents are elderly. I have no aunts/uncles/first cousins. [/quote]

OP, I am an only adult child.  My husband has a sister and they never talk - they haven't really ever been close.  Not everyone else has family to count on or to do things with.  Your husband should help you car for your aging parents (and you should do the same for him).  Stop thinking everyone else has it better than you because they don't.  I'm not saying I don't have any sympathy for you because it sounds like you're struggling, but it may help if you stop having unrealistic expectations about what other people's lives look like.  Take what you have and make it work.[/quote]

This is OP. My husband is incredibly close with all his siblings. While they dont all live in the same city, they talk via text or phone every day. He also has 25+ first cousins that he doesn’t communicate with regularly but would be available to him if he ever needed something. Via marriage this is now my family too. I love them all. We have a lot of fun together. But I don’t have the bond that they share. And it’s hard to not feel envious sometimes. Esp during life’s ups and downs where he gets loads of support and my lack of extended family is on display. [/quote]

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