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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I didn’t mean for this to happen - at all. I met this new woman while I was gone on a trip, after some drinks, and got carried away. This has never happened before. I started dating my wife when I was 22. I’m 46.

My wife just doesn’t like some things about me. I try to be a good husband. We’ve been through it all together, of course. But there’s a distance between us that I don’t see us being able to bridge. We’ve tried. She’s lovely and wonderful and we are friends, but we’re also - different.

I love my kids so much. Our oldest is about to start the college application process, the younger is starting high school. I don’t want to create a disruption in their lives.

This new woman - I know it’s a fantasy. But she’s warm and beautiful and sweet and it’s nice to feel noticed and appreciated again. It is. I’m not a monster. I’m confused and I’m scared and I don’t know what it will be like to have another forty years with my wife. I also don’t know that I want to start over at the wrong side of 45. [/quote]

OP. You're in the honeymoon period with this new woman, of course she seems perfect and amazing and every moment with her is magic. Boring old wife and your 20-year-old connection cannot compare to the high of new love. I promise - PROMISE - that once you get to know one another, there will be things you don't like about her and things she won't like about you. There will be moments you will feel alone and misunderstood. Life will get monotonous with her, too. You can't imagine it now, but it will.

You will have broken your wife's heart, your kids' hearts, and don't forget your extended families too. So... be really, really sure that this isn't just infatuation. Think really long and hard about what you're doing. [/quote]

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