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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Chances are that dad is relocating for a woman. A friend went through lengthy mediation over an elaborate cross country visitation schedule. In the end, her ex got all the federal holidays, Thanksgiving, Winter Break, Spring Break, and all but two weeks of summer break. In exchange, she got tie breaking authority in legal custody. The ex moved and the first visit was a month later. About two hours after her son landed, he called her in tears to say “Dad is getting married today! Can I come home?”

Her ex got married that same day and then left the son and three new step-siblings at home with a babysitter while he went on his honeymoon. My friend couldn’t even reach the dad for a week to ask WTF.

As a result, they were back in court the same year. The judge gave dad just half of winter break, half of spring break, and three weeks of summer break. Dad soon dropped the school year visits. [/quote]

Good grief.

Something similar happened to a friend of mine.  Their dad, her ex, scheduled his wedding to his new GF for one week after his kids left from summer visitation with him (in Europe).  The kids didn't know he was even getting married, they found out accidentally that he was 1) marrying and 2) they weren't invited to the wedding :([/quote]

Why do men do stuff like this???  I know, not all men, but still?  Is it just an outcome of believing that all emotional labor is women's work -- so the new GF gets to dictate the wedding plans (no matter how hurtful to the kids) and the man just doesn't have to think about the implications to his own children or how to best blend families, because taking care of his kids' emotions is their mom's job?[/quote]

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