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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It also shows aunt that she should never ask anything of you OP as your view would be that she would need to compensate you for it. That you would only help her if he hired you and compensated you financially for your help.

Aunt isn't like you OP. She sees your kids as part of her famy and enjoys being with them and getting to do things for them. Her famy of famy is not that any time with her nieces/nephews must be paid time.

You can't see her side because the idea of helping without beig paid for it is foreign to you and you would frel insilted and taken advantage of if someone didn't pau you for your time. She can't see your side because the idea of being paid for helping family is foreign to her and insulted by your perception that she is hired help.

Lots of people in this thread on both sides.[/quote]

I'm the OP and have watched my SILs 4 kids for 2 weeks and asked for nothing. So I basically had 7 children for 14 days. I took no money and was offered none. And I was fine with that. So not sure why my offering money implies I expect money. I offered money because my friend/their Aunt is doing us a huge favor, is not a blood relative, and doesn't have to do any of it and I didn't want my children to be a burden. [/quote]

So, the aunt is not really their aunt?[/quote]

Oh my, this is getting weirder by the day.

OP, are you making up some kind of soap opera?[/quote]

OP here. She is an aunt in every true sense of the word, except we have no blood relationship. You don't have anyone you know who is family by choice, not blood? What should my kids call her. We have been friends since we were 9. She was there when I met my husband, she stood in our wedding, she was one of the first people at the hospital when each of my children were born. Calling her just a friend wouldn't be accurate but at the same time because she is not blood I recognize her watching my kids is going above and beyond. I have 4 sisters who watch my kids free of charge but I also watch their kids. This friend/aunt has no kids so it's a big ask to take on 3 and I wanted her to be compensated, not insulted. [/quote]

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