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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have four kids (9,7,5,2).  There are a lot of reasons to not have four children:
1.  It can put a strain on your family financially if you are not ok with public schools.  We live in an area with amazing public schools, so this was not an issue on us.
2.  Saving for college can be tough.  Again you have to prioritize, and that may not be worth it.
3.  You're in the baby stage for longer than your friends/older kids friends parents.  My youngest is two now but we still can't take him to a lot of family get togethers that my eldest gets invited to -- either timing doesn't work out or a lot of time its not really appropriate for a toddler.  I've had a diaper bag for nine years now.  I'm ready to shed some of this stuff.
4.  Daycare is expensive.  Its hard to keep working if you have four kids because things like meal planning and laundry and parenting can really be a full time job at this point.  I manage, but only because my job is incredibly flexible.
5.  Its hard to give all the kids equal attention.  Finding time to read one on one at bedtime can be challenging, but not much more so than with three kids.  If one of them is special needs, it can be really tough.

We've never had an issue with travelling (though we do stay in two rooms, but again I think you end up doing this with 3 kids if the kids are over the age of 8).  Getting an uber can be tough, and eating out was never a priority for us.  My youngest is the light of our lives, I can't even imagine not having him.  The kids dote on him so much, they love having a big family,  I don't regret the decision to have 4 at all.  [/quote]

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