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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Going through the same thing with my almost 7 year old son. DH and I aren’t handling it well at. all. Guess we aren’t the progressive, educated type that DCUM talks about.

From age 1-4, DS was into stereotypical boy stuff - cars, trucks, trains. Then flipped a switch right when he started K at 5 and decided he liked “girl” stuff instead. Initially we went with it, but over time it started to get borderline bizarre and unhealthy. We felt like we were being irresponsible by allowing this to happen, so we’ve forbidden certain things. I often wonder if we are harming DS in the long run with our stricter approach, but I wondered the same thing when we were much more relaxed with the gender nonconformity behaviors.[b] I wish every day that DS would just “blend in” with the rest of the typical little boys because regardless of what anyone says on DCUM, being transgender or even gay will make his life so much harder. [/b]His life will already be hard as a minority with ADHD and other LDs. Add to that we have limited financial resources, so he’s not getting the best of education, community, etc. And yes I know, parental love and support is a buffer. I’m sure I will be judged severely for my post, but it’s easy to say what we should do when you’re not in our shoes and don’t experience the hardships of our demographics (poor, minority, ADHD, LDs).[/quote]

It sounds like you think that by being "strict" about what he's allowed to do/wear/like you will prevent him from being gay/trans.  You do realize you can't "make" someone be or not be gay/trans?  All you can do with this strict approach is make him feel bad about who he is.  Support the child you actually have and help him to feel good about that.[/quote]

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