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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted earlier about being happy with three, and I think the focus on the long-term misses the point.  There's a long, LONG time between now and 2060, or whenever those imagined big family holidays with functional adult kids and grandkids will be.  A long time.  You have to raise your kids to get there.  It's not just about getting through the newborn phase, it's about raising your kids into early adulthood; even then, parents are parents for life.  Adding a fourth person into the mix is a big deal.  Mosey on over to the Midlife (or whatever it's called now) forum and see the parents upset that their adult children don't want to spend time with them.  Don't have children because of what you imagine their and your future to be, and think about the practical reality of raising kids.

Also, OP, part of my reason for not having a fourth is that I really value my workouts.  It's not shallow to prioritize my health and to consider the effect a fourth child would have on my ability to do that (or to sleep well, etc.).  I want to be there for the kids I have now as long as possible.[/quote]

Good thoughts. ~PP with 3.[/quote]

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