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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they are not on solid financial footing then why in the world would they spend a lot on a wedding?  If I were you, I would offer a set amount of money for them ($5K?).  If I were them, I would take that money to help get in better financial shape and have a tiny, budget-friendly wedding or elope.[/quote]

That sounds like a reasonable contribution and a reasonable plan to me.[/quote]

[b]I guess I don't see 5k as a reasonable amount for a wedding contribution[/b].  Maybe if you paid 100% of college. 20k is more normal if you make about 100k. So maybe if you make less than average 5k might be okay. [/quote]

LOL, as if you get any say over how other people spend their money?

My parents paid $0 for our wedding - DH and I paid for the entire thing.

We have only sons, not daughters, but regardless, we do not value a big blowout party that lasts several hours on one day.  We are getting our kids through private colleges with zero debt, because we value that.  We will contribute what we can to our kids' weddings, but will not fund anything extravagant. [/quote]

I was grateful when my father gave us $1,800 towards our wedding.  He'd just survived my mother's financially catastrophic illness and death, so I certainly didn't expect anything.  You're just as married if you go to a courthouse as you are if you spend $5k on a wedding or $500k on a wedding.  And people wonder why kids around here feel entitled ...

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At the end of the day, a wedding is a party.  Nothing more and nothing less.  Extravagance is optional.

https://www.countryliving.com/life/a38375/wedding-traditions/[/quote]

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