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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  It sounds like you have different expectations about your relationship than your mother does.  Yes she is a mother but it's time to move that relationship toward an adult peer relationship rather than a mom relationship.

Things actually work out great.  You can have dinner for your SIL's birthday with your Dh's family.  Then spend time with your parents over the rest of the weekend.  Stop chasing your mother.

You visit your parents and try to fit around their schedule when visiting your friends, so YOU have an expectation that your parents should do the same.  Well they can't move the program can they.  Stop expecting your parents to act like you, they are different people.  It's time to accept them flaws and all.  They don't think the same as you, stop expecting them to do, be and say everything that you would.

Let your parents visit when they want.  Get on with your own life, if your parents miss out then that will be on them.  Learn to accept this isn't about you, it's them and just how they are.  It may be hurtful but it will help you a lot to just let go and accept the relationship for what it is.

There are a lot of us who wanted different relationships and at some point you just have to accept what you have.[/quote]
Sometimes that you have to except that you’re asking too much of a person Opie has repeatedly said that her mother is loving and supportive what the Frick else does she want? I’m sort of terrified to think of what expectations she has of her spouse.[/quote]

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