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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have a late lunch and dinner at 8:30.  Or can you see the performance too?  That would be fun. Or switch the dinner to sat and go to your SIL bday thing on Fri.  This doesn’t have to be a big deal or be a test of your mother’s love.  Are you in therapy?  I mean this kindly, but I hope so.[/quote]

[b]This.  Op you seem to be setting arbitrary tests of your mother’s love - “if she doesn’t comply in this exact way she doesn’t love me at all”[/b]

You need to reset your unreasonable expectations and figure out why you do this, so you can change your perspective.  Only then will you be happier.  [/quote]

Understandable, but to play devils advocate, which party being upset will impact OP's Mom more in the long term; the student, or her daughter? [/quote]

Honestly, it sounds like OP is oversensitive and immature, and I doubt that this will be the only time that OP is upset that Mom has the temerity not to center her life around her adult, married children.  Maybe she can avoid it this time, but you know something else is going to happen that will cause the same problems.  I mean, OP thinks it's fine to go visit her friends when she visits her mom.  She doesn't think that she has any obligation to spend 100 percent of the visit with her mom.  Mom isn't doing anything unreasonable here.  Given that OP said that her mom was loving and involved when she was growing up, I think this is a case of an adult child struggling with realizing that your parents have their own lives and that when you grow up and move out, you aren't the center of their lives like you used to be.  [/quote]

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