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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, why exactly are you assuming OP does not already do that? The community service at home and a short summer service trip are not mutually exclusive. Check you self-righteousness. You don’t know this family or this program. [/quote]

Different PP, but I’m going to say that if this kid was regulary part of a church service group, she would likely have friends, or at least know some of the other kids casually. Church service groups aren’t usually sending the highest bidder, but rather, a group of kids with a track record of desire to service.

I’m sorry, but most of these “service trips” are exactly what PP called them: poverty tourism. To me, these trips smack of the same kind of privileged faux help that gets doled out on Thanksgiving and Christmas. It’s more about SAYING they helped, than if the people they were “servicing” were actually helped.

Because if you helped and no one cool / in your friend circle / desirable knew about it, did you really help at all? [/quote]

"Different PP," why don't you start a thread debating the pros and cons of different types of service programs instead of making assumptions about this one and bashing OP?[/quote]

Blue collar doesn’t always mean poor. Dad is military, if he isn’t an officer, that qualifies as blue collar. Mom could be a teacher or a cop or a million other things where they can afford one service trip (esp w DD working the second half of the summer) and still be blue collar. To think that no blue collar family could afford a service trip is... removed from reality.

Well, OP is considering pulling her child due to her “happiness”.

I would think a child who has just spend days building homes for the impoverished would now understand a thing or two about inconvenience, hardship, and happiness.

Basically, that there is a consideration to bring her home at all tells me this wasn’t about service at all.

OP can now feel proud that she paid money to a company making a profit, to let her daughter sit in a hotel room for a week. That money could have gone to teaching people in the community how to frame, drywall, and finish homes, but it’s going to putting privileged kids, who will never use those skills again, up for lodging. That, and making the company a profit.

I love how DCUM is so “evidence based”, until it’s inconvenient to be so. [/quote]

PP. I’m the OP you know jacksh*t about us. You don’t know that my daughter has struggled with serious depression and anxiety and has been in and out of therapy. You don’t know that her grandmother died three weeks ago. You don’t know that she has spent most of her life with a deployed father. You don’t know that she has moved eight times in ten years. You don’t know that we’re a blue collar family. You don’t know that she’s spending the second half of her summer working. You don’t know that during the school year she helps out in a shelter for homeless families. All you are doing here is displaying your own narrowness and self-righteousness. Your ready assumption that anyone posting here is “privileged” suggests that you yourself could use a little time outside your bubble. [/quote]

A blue collar family that can afford a service trip? How much was this trip, OP?[/quote][/quote]

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