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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am wondering how OP would feel when her IL aged somewhere else and DH was always having to go help them or deal with medical issues out of town.  That is very difficult too.  My own parents are moving to my town next year.  I get along with them well..but I only see them 3-4 times a year.  I am worried about the change and what the boundaries will be.  Silly things like running into the at the store or unexpected visits when the house is a mess.  I also feel a bit like I am tied down here as long as they are around.  My youngest will be heading to college when they come so no help with the kids perk.  In the end, that is part of family...supporting parents as they age.[/quote]

[b]Completely not the same when it is your own parent and when the relationship is decent to start with.[/b]

I’ve done the commuting-to-take-care-of-sick parents thing.  It is hard, but not as hard as OP’s situation, which I have also gone through.  The former is physically and somewhat emotionally difficult.  The latter is very emotional difficult.

Supporting a spouse going out of town is a logistical challenge.  Needing your spouse to suddenly learn to manage boundaries with parents he doesn’t want to disappoint is another type of problem altogether.  And it’s lonely because you and your spouse are in conflict, and many other people would think you are awful if you complained about the in-law invasion (see this thread...).[/quote]

This is perhaps the dumbest point that is consistently repeated on this board.  ALL parents are inlaws, and all inlaws are parents.  It's the exact same dynamic, no matter whose parent it is - it's just that you may be on a different side of it.  [/quote]

Duh.  But OP is the one writing, and it’s her in-laws are moving the town.  The poster above is drawing a comparison to her own parents moving to town, so they are on different sides of it (not to mention different family dynamics to start with). [/quote]

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