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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It takes about 2 to 3 years post-divorce and you start to not really care one bit. A bit more time and you could actually see them in friendly terms, but not someone to actively be friends with, but be chill about co-parenting with her or him.[/quote]

You get to a point where you feel indifferent about them and simply glad that they are no longer a problem.  But the psychological scarring from the betrayal lasts.  Op will never again trust anyone that way ever again.  [/quote]

Very true. My ex wife cheated and we divorced about 5 years ago. I won’t ever love that way again. First marriage, children, both being all in and building a life together. I’m over it as much as one can be, but it sucks at 54 to know I had my shot at doing it right and it’s messed up and I can’t ever do that again. All my current prospects are middle aged very nice divorced women with kids. Any talk of re marriage involves basically separate finances and more of a partnership, and not the crazy all in life together situation that I had. Makes me sad sometimes. [/quote]

The frustrating part is that I don’t think the cheating spouse even knows/understands what they stole from the victim spouse.  Mine didn’t seem to have any understanding of the way in which he permanently damaged my life and the kids.  Yes, we recovered (although we split) and I built a new life. We co-parent. But, I dumped him after I found out about his repeated cheating when my youngest was 18 months old. Neither I nor my kids ever had an intact family to parent or grow up in.

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That’s really the thing. My marriage wasn’t super before the cheating, but the cheating completely broke it, for me. I was secure and it was my *family,* and it totally crumbled in an instant. I may marry again, but this is not what I dreamed of for my children, for myself.[/quote]

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