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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So after every year of feeling disappointed, I told DH straight up what I want. I want him to plan a night out for just us or with friends or whatever. DH has been traveling a lot lately and has had lots of time with his friends and my friends just can’t get it together right now to go out (that’s a topic for another thread). So I told DH I want him to take the reins and plan something. He knows the restaurants I like, the musicians I like etc. We have my parents locally who love to take the kids. But it’s always left to me to plan to go out and unless I plan it then it doesn’t happen. Meanwhile DH can plan weekends away with his friends no problem.

So what did I get? A handwritten IOU on a piece of printer paper for a new purse. I don’t want or need a new purse. He couldn’t have even taken the time to get me a gift card to an actual store or Amazon or whatever. Just a note scrawled on a piece of paper.

Oh, and he completely ruined the morning by picking a power struggle with our 7 year old and giving him a consequence that I completely disagree with, but I couldn’t take back or it would have completely undermined him.

Know what DH does for Fathers Day? A day of golf with all his friends where they get drunk and then come home to a BBQ with family that I plan and host.

Know what I’m doing next year for Mother’s Day? Going away by myself to do something I enjoy and not sitting around waiting to be disappointed by DH yet again. The hardest part is seeing how he’s setting such a low bar for our kids to learn from. Everyone else’s birthdays and special days get celebrated because I’m the driving force behind them. But my special days get a last minute IOU scrawled on a piece of printer paper. So the kids see that mom/wife isn’t worth a proper celebration. Lovely.

TLDR: I finally asked for exactly what I want instead of hoping he’d get it right but he still couldn’t give any effort. [/quote
The day isn’t over...go have dinner at the bar of one of your favorite restaurants, invite your friends over for a glass of champagne or head to your friend’s house with a bottle. Hi [/quote]

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