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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like how it's "so saaaaaad" when you're describing a mom, but when it's a dad, he's just...a dad.[/quote]

Yup. Neither DH nor I want to make lunches, pick out clothes for tomorrow, cook dinner, clean the kitchen... I mean, obviously? Who WANTS to do childcare (which is different than hanging out with your kids in a relaxed context)? [/quote]
Why even have kids then? [/quote]

Not wanting to make lunch has literally nothing to do with how much I love my kids. [/quote]
Who said it does? Projecting much?

I do think it is very sad when people want the fun parts of parenting with none of the mundane, the toughness, the boring moments. It's very unfortunate. [/quote]
Yep. Life happens during the mundane! Every lunch packed, every diaper changed, every dish washed, every butt wiped, every bowl of cereal poured...it's our actions during those mundane moments that build the framework for a future. When your kids see you being there for them in THOSE moments, they'll know you're they're for them. Just being around for the fun stuff? Nope.

I've realized, over the years, that parenting isn't about taking the vacations and having those life-changing talks with your kids. Of course, that's fun. But the REAL stuff happens in the day to day. I can point to 20 different mundane things in our daily routine but are all part of one big "I love you."

Parents who want to bypass that and hide out in their office instead? Sad. [/quote]

I think you’re right that a lot happens during those mundane moments. My DH skips out on all of it and shows up to tuck the kids in at bedtime. But he’s always the one planning the trips to Disney and taking everyone for ice cream. At some point it hit me that I’m the only one teaching these kids manners, how to do things for themselves, cleaning up after themselves, being kind to one another, talking about school problems, and on and on. I’m doing all the hard work of parenting. [b]To my DH the kids are a fun hobby. [/b]
Sadly, I don’t think kids necessarily grow up to appreciate the work we put in. My husband’s family grew up with a similar dynamic as ours. His parents ultimately got divorced, and two of three kids sided with the fun, rich dad. Mom spends holidays alone, despite all of those changed diapers and packed lunches. The fun parent still woos all of them. [/quote]
I think this exemplifies a lot of people here.[/quote]

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