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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I was. And in the winter, skiing. I hated it because we eventually had no relationship at all, even though I do these sports too. I do not engage in these activities to the detriment or instead of all my other obligations, like my children or my relationships or even basic chores. We are now divorced. I had no idea this was so common. I felt so rejected and hurt by his behavior. The worst incident was when he left me home alone with newborn twins, recovering from a c-section just delirious with sleep deprivation. But hey, no friends (or wife and family) on a powder day, right?! I eventually gave up and left him, [b]and he blames me for the end of our shell of a marriage. Obtuse to the bitter end. [/b]

I thought he was unusual but maybe not. He was also on Strava and obsessed with his college racing days. Maybe this is a type A thing....?[/quote]

OP here - this is exactly correct. They just don't connect the dots. In their minds, they are reasonable. I was told that it was [b]my 'obsessive-compulsive' desire[/b] to ensure the dogs are ok, etc. I explained that when I ask if he not ride his bike to work on X day and he responds with anything but an "I can do that", I know what that means.

I feel for you regarding being left home like that. I can recall days being home sleep-deprived with two young children, while he not only went on a five hour bike ride, but first spent three hours at his brother's house waiting for him to be ready because his brother would say 11:00 am start time but they wouldn't leave until 2.

I can't imagine being abandoned with twins after a c-section for skiing. How awful.[/quote]

That right there is some master-level projection. WTF.[/quote]

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