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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH came home today and told me we need to change our relationship.  He said he is tired of bearing one hundred percent of the financial burden for our family, tired of the stress that it is putting on him.  He said one of three things are going to happen:

1.  I am going to step up to the plate and start paying my "fair share" share of the household bills, i.e. mortgage, utilities, etc.  
2.  I am going to quit my job and follow him on a new overseas assignment, and either we sell or rent out the house because it is too much a burden for him alone. 
3.  We get divorced, and he gets his equitable distribution from our "joint assets," whatever that means. [b] I have my own savings and have made successful investments.  He doesn't have much saved.  That's his problem I guess. [/b]

I am not interested in marriage counseling. We have been through that and it does nothing but embarrass me. [/quote]

1.You have your savings because you are leaching on him. 
2.You don't have savings. It is not  yours, they belong to him just as they belong to you.
3. You made investments thinking this is  your money to invest, no, it was your both money, you just happened to be the one to invest it and any income form this is to be divided including the property.
4. He did not have much saved? Yes he does, your savings are his savings. Besides how could he saved anything if his salary covers all the expenses and yours does not? 
5. This is not his problem. This is your problem. His problem is your problem and it looks like your shrewd and calculated way is something that is already coming back at  you and biting you back.

I am sure you are a good person but your thinking is faulty. You live in a country that has very specific law comes to marriage and finances and as long as  you live here you are subjected to all the laws. He is on the right side of it at this time. 
It does not look like you care about your husband in a single bit, but all you care is money. This is the beginning of the end.[/quote]

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