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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you want to marry him OP? You’re divorced and should have a good idea whether he is marriage material or not. Money alone isn’t a good enough reason.

How old are your two kids?[/quote]

I would like to marry him, but he’s kind of a confirmed bachelor. Married to work, works 60+ hours a week, travels extensively. This is why he’s a “non-boyfriend.” Although we get on really well, and do love each other, [b]he’s just not really there when it comes to commitment.[/b][/quote]

This plus your hesitation are big red flags to me. Follow your instincts but I'd probably terminate this pregnancy.[/quote]

OP I agree with other posters that you need to sit down and talk to this guy and put it all out on the table. What does financial support mean, what does emotional support mean, what are the living arrangements, is marriage on the table.

I think this situation could go many ways. The best possible outcome is that you realize you love each other and get married and live the high life and have your third kid. The worst possible outcome is that he leaves you hanging and does nothing at all.

Seems like worst case is super unlikely. So talk to him, he doesn't want you to abort and you love him so its time to have a really serious conversation. No one on DCUM knows this guy, and even you probably don't know him as well as you think.

Considering that he REALLY wants the child AND that you do want a third but are just conflicted in this situation, than I think a real come to jesus about the whole thing is in order. Give him the opportunity to fully understand this and make his proposal (not necessarily of marriage but of what life looks like with this baby in it).

Also, as you talk through this, make sure to keep your other two children in mind. When one child is significantly more wealthy than your other children because they have a rich different parent it can cause a lot of friction. So if it were me, part of this would be a, 'we are a package deal' situation. [/quote]

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