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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Neither your mother nor your MIL are servants.  They’re family.  Try looking at it that way.  [/quote]

Family who frequently stays overnight is just that--family. Family helps. If they wanted to be treated like guests, don't visit so damn much. [/quote]

Where does it say that the MIL wants to be treated like a guest? All I see is the OP complaining that MIL doesn't go far above and beyond like OP's own mom. And its not suprising that with such a codependent relationship, OP is going to prefer her own mom. Where is DH in all this? I'm guessing he's a classic Beta who is not allowed to have any opinions, down to the color of his shirt.[/quote]

Um, people who do nothing but hold the baby and criticize--at clearly stated in the original post--aren't helping, they're making extra work for the host: extra cleaning, extra food, extra emotional and mental energy of having to make small talk and fend off parenting critcisms from literally Armchair Grandma.[/quote]

Its not fair to compare MIL to OP's mom, who by all accounts is Dobby the house elf.[/quote]
Then it’s also not fair for MIL to compare the amount of visits to OPs mother. 
MIL may not have the same ability, but it sounds like she also doesn’t try. Yes she’s obese. She could still offer to run errands (like grocery curbside pickups), read books or do arts/crafts or find ways to make herself helpful. She doesn’t. [/quote]

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