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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun.  Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun.  And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious.  Sorry op[/quote]

Hi, welcome to 2019. Have you met the Internet? It's pretty great. If you use this search engine called "Google" and type in gender-neutral baby clothes, a huge array of options at nearly all price points will be presented to you. Wowie, zowie! Did I just blow your mind?[/quote]

I don’t find buying baby clothes on the internet fun.  It’s the one thing that I still enjoy buying in the store.  This is just my opinion, other people can think whatever.  I’m just giving op another perspective.  Maybe her MIL is not super savvy about shopping on the internet.  Maybe someone has some special gendered baby item they want to give to her.  Who knows?

[b]In my experience, the people who don’t find out or keep baby names secret etc. tend to be people who want to draw attention to themselves and their “special” choices.  [/b][/quote]

This.  It's the "unconventional" parents looking for a reaction from others, another attention seeking method, and OP is successful in making a non-event ("we don't know") into an occasion ("we are so special we decided that we want a big surprise at birth").  I know the gender because of IVF, nobody gives a damn. It's just small talk, if you're not fixated on it, nobody will get fixated.[/quote]

It's very common in my husband's culture. I think it's because they're thinking about the possibility that the baby may not live. I really don't know. They do not have obnoxious parties etc. I remember telling my friends from his country that I already have the name at around 6 months. They were surprised. It's was obviously a boy name so they knew the gender. I think it's a little weird how secretive they're about things but it's just a little thing. It doesn't bug me anymore. I kind of took it personal because I thought they were just leaving me out.

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