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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - you have very unreasonable expectations

and the fact that you feel the way you do, as a Grandparent, would make me want to be around you even less.[/quote]

Op here. That’s fine. Hope they don’t need my help someday, since they’ve shown almost no interest in helping me. Scratch that, we can help them 3-4 times a year because we have “our own busy lives.” It’s a two way street.[/quote]

No, it is not. They already did their part in raising their kids to adulthood. Now it's your turn with yours. They are in a different stage of life and the balance of give/take in their relationships has shifted. As it will shift for you when you get old. Remember that your own kids are watching and learning from you. Do you want them to learn that the rule in life is "what have you done for me lately?" and to value family and the elderly by how much they can be used? How happy will you be when they turn that on you in 40 years? [/quote]

OP here. I vehemently disagree. Family helps one another out. My sister and I were totally devoted to my mother her entire illness, as she was devoted to us always. She was never to busy to help us. My kids saw that and hopefully will remember they had a grandmother that adored them. If I became to busy to help when they are adults (not gonna happen) I would never expect them to help me in old age. [/quote]

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