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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you've got a lot of unrealistic expectations here.  Your sister *was* busy this weekend - she apparently had plans with neighbors.  Of course you weren't invited - they have a group of friends, and [b]you aren't automatically in it[/b] because you are related to the group.  [b]You admit you aren't close, you haven't been close, you don't have much, if anything in common, and you don't really like each other[/b].  Given all that, why on earth would you expect to be included when she is getting together with her friends?

Moreover, if she works 60 hours a week, she's got limited time to do errands, etc., on the weekends.  Based on your description of your relationship, why would you think she would prioritize you?  
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+1000!

Unfortunately, OP, this is the reality.  Your sister's expectation is a world different from yours and there is nothing you can do to change that.  
I also have a strained relationship with my sister which rooted from our childhood.  I cannot change the past history, therefore I can do nothing to change how she feels about me now.  Sis/BIL recently moved to this area on job relocation.  Like you, OP, I also had a hope to re-connect with her.  But, I learnt my lesson big time that I would not necessarily fight for reconnecting with my sister any more.  On an invitation from sis, I visited her place once but the whole time I was their she was on her mobile phone browsing internet, did nothing to engage in any conversation with me.  Felt like sis used the mobile phone to actively shun me so that sis does not have to deal with me.  Although we (me and sis) had the awkward time, her kid (niece) and my kid had a great time spending a quality cousin time together.

After this, I quietly distanced myself from my sister (we communicate on text messages, but never on the phone, only visit her place at door step to exchange goods/drop off kids).  It would have been great to have a close relationship sister, but in my case, I don't have that.  At least, I know she is willing to let her kid spend time with my kid, so I will arrange a cousin time (drop-off visit only), but nothing more than that.  I will also have my husband or BIL with me/sis, if we need to meet at some point (needs a buffer, sort of speak).

Also OP, if you are SAHM, maybe you have too much free time to think about the nonsense.  Can you try to find something to do, just for yourself?  What are you interested into, like wanna pick up practicing guitar/piano, etc.?   Pour your time/thoughts into things that make you happier is far more healthy than clinging on the "emotionally" lost sister. [/quote]

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