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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know whats more obnoxious, people like you who criticize everything someone else does.  So, you expect people to come in, do as you command and not question or think it through.. hmm... sounds like far worse parenting and neglectful.[/quote]

False dichotomy.

There's compliant, quiet, and asking no questions, which isn't good for anybody. Things get missed, important questions aren't asked, and nobody can do good work.

There's disruptive, abrasive, and challenging for the sake of being challenging -- not questioning to come to common understanding, but asserting ignorance that people often don't even understand they have. It's challenge for the sake of challenge, debate because it seems to feed something in them to disagree. That can be dealt with, but it's a lot of work and very unpleasant. (If you are just a client in this case, many wouldn't be agreeing to work with you, by the way.)

Then there is a whole range in between, from people with soft-spoken questions, to people who ask for extra time to bring in research material to go over because they really want to understand the why and why not of it. And people who listen to recommendations, and decide otherwise -- but tell you so, and work with you on ways you can agree to make it as safe as possible for the child. And people who bring in a family member who is, say, a retired surgeon, or a midwife, or a physical therapist, or just an advocate, because they want to understand and be understood as clearly as possible. And all of those, and more? That's fine. Really, that's the work. It's a mutual exercise. It goes good places together.[/quote]

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