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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand why you can't talk it out with someone to explain that you simply are not available for a call at that hour, especially if you are willing to consider quitting. What do you have to lose?

But yeah, put the kid on the bus if you have bus service. She'll be fine. [/quote]

I've been with them for almost 15 years. I've never asked for anything like this - that's why. [/quote]

SO YOU HAVE BUILT UP THE GOOD WILL TO BE ABLE TO ASK FOR THESE KINDS OF THINGS OP!!!!

You need to realize your mindset about this is completely bonkers. I'm sorry to be harsh but this is really toxic thinking. You need to be a model for your daughter that when you need something, you speak up. Do you really want your daughter to grow up thinking that she always has to deal with everything on her own, with no help from others? [/quote]

I've been begging for help (outside of work) since she was born. it's never materialized. [b]Yes, you always need to be prepared to do everything yourself. People are unreliable[/b].

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OP, reread what you wrote here. Now ask yourself why you haven't been able to find any sense of community after all this time. The answer is in front of you.[/quote]

That I don't trust people, because when I was practically suicidal from PPD, no one even bothered calling, except my mother who told me my child deserved better? Yeah, ok. It's my fault. It's my fault his commander's wife said a meal train wasn't going to happen during the summer because everyone was on vacation and she hoped I understood? Give me a break. That was two duty stations ago. I haven't bothered meeting anyone since.[/quote]

I get where you're coming from OP. I'm all about self-sufficiency too, and so's my husband. Never ask for help, never expect it, never rely on anyone for anything. Here's the thing - it's not working for you if that imperative is going to prompt you to quit your job. And it's a self-fulfilling prophecy - if you have decided not to bother anyone you meet now because of something that happened in another place, with other people, then you are dooming yourself AND YOUR KIDS to a very lonely and hard destiny. I'm not dealing with anything nearly as complicated as a deployed spouse, but I have slowly begun to learn that trying to ask for help when you need it can be a good thing, even if it's just texting a neighbor to ask if s/he can give your kid a ride to soccer practice. Sometimes you just might find, you get the help you need. It's not going to solve your immediate problem, but it will make your life a little bit better and a little less lonely.[/quote]

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