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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a small rural town in Minnesota, and my parents NEVER talked about my future life as a mother or a wife. They encouraged me to be a curious child, educate myself, and [b]contribute to society[/b]. Discussions of baby names, dream husbands, and the like, never happened. [/quote]

I’m from the south, but same.  [/quote]

[b]Two questions.  One:  you don't think that devoting yourself to motherhood is "contributing to society?"  Two, what exactly is your wonderful contribution?[/b][/quote]

+1. And why is "discussion of baby names, dream husbands, etc" such a forbidden topic of conversation? Don't most people want to eventually settle down with someone they love and have children with them?  Why do we have to act like something that is normal and desired by most humans is something that can't be discussed with our kids. Especially, heaven forbid, our daughters?  [/quote]

PP from south here.  No, I don't really think "devoting yourself to motherhood" is necessarily contributing to society, given the environmental impact of raising several kids.  There is also a positive economic impact when more women are in the workforce.  Finally, I personally feel more fulfilled with looking outward and contributing to the world around me.  I'm in healthcare research.[/quote]

I should add that I have a young daughter (early elem).  The topic of "future husbands" etc. literally never came up in my own house growing up that I can recall, and I'm really grateful my parents didn't pressure me to get married or have kids.  I came to that decision on my own, after launching my career.

It's come up a few times with my daughter, but I've conveyed that she can do whatever she wants when she grows up; marriage to a man (or woman) and kids is certainly fine, if she wants those things.  Finding an interesting, fulfilling career has been more emphasized.  The only family expectation I've made clear is that she must be a parent to either a kid or a cat/dog, or both (we're big animal people).[/quote]

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