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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, myob.

Second, I’m sure you won’t get this, but being a SAHM can actually be quite hard.  It’s very isolating (hence the social media) and not having money is not fun.  The same set of pros and cons that apply to you working vs not working apply to her too, but — for whatever reason — she cane down on the other side of the equation.  That doesn’t make it idyllic.  And it may be that she doesn’t see a path to get from where she is to working, while still managing the household.  Anyway, you might seek to be a little more understanding rather than your current combo of superior and envious.[/quote]

I'm genuinely empathetic to her boredom and isolation. I'm not being mean, how is it not obvious to her that the kids are all in school now, she's bored with nothing to do, so she needs to go back to work? When I say "confront" I mean like we need to get her to wake up and realize she needs a job.[/quote]

[b]What job will let her take off for kid’s sick days, teacher work days, school vacations.........? And be home before they get home from school?[/b] [/quote]

NP here. Preschool teacher. School sub. School employee (clinic or library assistant, office employee, kindergarten assisted, cafeteria monitor.)[/quote]

Good idea, but these don't work like that. What about the logistics of you're subbing in Olney but your child is in school in Chevy Chase? What about certifications and schooling and requirements? What about family-based decisions on what is best?

It pisses me off that lots of women (who work, usually) feel that ALL women are obligated to work or they're letting women down. That's BS. It's often women who make a lot who just assume it's no biggie to get a PT job. Well, if you may $200K a year and don't work that's one thing, but if you have a BA in history and don't have a ton of experience and you might make $55K a year, the calculus for taking a PT job for even less is very different when you have to factor in childcare, before/after care (these are often needed for PT jobs), clothing, lunches, the impact that has logistical on the breadwinner, etc...  It doesn't even mean you're going be saving a lot for college after the fact. And I say this as a working mom![/quote]

Pp here who is a SAHM. I could work any of the jobs I mentioned at my own local public school/preschool (and in fact I’m a sub at our public ES) and it works exactly like that. No logistics required. No certifications required. It really IS nbd. I don’t have a dog in this fight and don’t care what Op’s sister does or doesn’t do, I was just answering the question in bold. [/quote]

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