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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I agree with you and think your MIL is crappy for blowing your kid’s graduation off.  While she’s obviously not obligated to be there, it’d be nice if she wanted to be there.  For everyone saying that graduations are boring and your kid won’t have much time to spend with him, I wonder what they’d say if you came here asking if your son should attend a function for your MIL that would be boring and not give her much of a chance to interact with him.

I also understand your impulse to be hurt in your son’s behalf.  What would bother me is that you know she’d be there if she wanted to be.  I’m sorry. [/quote]

A 70something not wanting to deal with air travel and sitting on a bleacher or folding chair for three hours does not equal "blowing off" anything. She will likely send a card and/or a gift, and probably will call as well. (Even OP admits she's a grandma who has a good relationship with her grandson.) They can have a special visit later. My goodness, you people are really quite myopic and selfish if you think a good grandma is "blowing off" her grandson just because she doesn't want to fly to sit through a cattle call style event. [/quote]

Grandma travels when she wants to.  And, no matter the style of the graduation (depending on the school, it may not be a cattle call event), it’s important to the graduate and he wants to share it with grandma.  You seem to be ok with teaching this young man that you show up for family when its fun and convenient.  Thankfully, it sounds like OP holds herself and her son to a higher standard, even if MIL can’t be bothered to make that effort.

I do hope that OP can help her son not take It personally, but make no mistake it is personal.  I also hope OP can help her son express his disappointment to his grandmother.  If her son is like mine, he’s hesitant because it feels disrespectful to do so.  [/quote]

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