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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes you have to back off. It might be different than what you’re talking about, but honestly I’m happy my son will graduate. I’m happy he’s going to be alive to graduate. I’ll be ecstatic if his gpa is 3.3 and he makes it into a state school. I’ll tell him how proud I am of him if it’s 2.8 and he goes to community college. I’m cool with him taking a year or two off to work and save for college while he learns what the real world is like.

He has severe anxiety and depression and was suicidal for a while. He overcame those hurdles and is trying to get back on track, but he did poorly in some classes his freshman and sophomore years. All he can do now is try to repair the damage and learn from his mistakes, while trying to stay healthy. I’d rather have a healthy, reasonably happy, low performing child than heap on the pressure to the point where I have no son.

IRL, when someone asks why DS isn’t taking all the AP classes possible or passes judgment on his college prospects, I’m not going to air all his dirty laundry. I just play it off like it’s no big deal. It isn’t. His health is our big deal.

So yeah. You can take your judgment and stick it where the sun doesn’t shine. [/quote]

Good point!

I remember how smug I was about my DS when I overheard him counting measuring cups (nested plastic ones he was playing with on the kitchen floor)--counted to 6, at 15 months. Testing 3 years ahead of grade level in 2nd grade. But that same 2nd grade year he spent in partial hospitalization for a month, doing the 5th grade assignments because the hospital teacher took a shine to him. That was hardly the last time he was hospitalized, partial AND inpatient.

He has a GED. His late teen and early adult years were terrifying. He's 29 now, has had his own business for 7 years. He did some dual credit classes while he was still in high school (tech stuff) and I managed to persuade him to take a single night college course, but his view was that his school experiences had left him not equipped for college and if he needs to learn stuff he'll look it up online (he's very knowledgeable in general, current events/politics and technology in particular). You bet sometimes my heart breaks over the no college but I did not get to control certain things that happened to him.

IDK, maybe OP would have considered him trash of some sort, what with the GED. [/quote]

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