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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"You obviously want his attention and ours."

What I want is to poll multiple people on what they think so I get the best advice on how to move this forward.[/quote]
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YOU’VE RECEIVED ADVICE FROM MULTIPLE PEOPLE. ARE YOU REALLY THAT DENSE, or DO YOU JUST NEED A LOT OF ATTENTION? I’M THINKING IT’S THE LATTER. HERE IS A SAMPLING OF THE ADVICE YOU'VE RECEIVED:

Creepy! Stay away from and tell him is behavior is extremely inappropriate!

His ego needs regular fluffing. Please distance yourself.

He’s a weirdo.

This is innapropiate for someone who works with you and, of course, for someone in a relationship.

He's a hunter. He just wants to see if he can catch you because the hunt gives him a thrill. Propose marriage to him in a crazy way, and he'll leave you alone

Obviously he wants some and obviously you enjoy it so he's continuing to do things and escalating. He isn't married, so just get it over with and get it on and see if it is something that has any traction.

Men like attention. That's what he's getting out of flirting with you.

You mentioned that his behavior is escalating. If I were you, I wouldn’t be alone with him or encourage him in any way. He sounds predatory. If you’re as naive as you seem, he might be ‘grooming’ you.

Spelling it out for you: he’s an asshole. Avoid him like the Zika virus. If he persists, tell him to eff off. If that doesn’t work, complain to HR. The longer you leave this, the harder it will be for you, especially if others have noticed this flirting.

OP seriously, what is wrong with you? ALL OF HIS BEHAVIOR IS PREDATORY! You sound like a child demanding cookies.

His behavior is certainly inappropriate, and OP would clearly see that if she found him unattractive or didn’t want the attention. Basically he’s a scum bag who is in a committed relationship and is testing the waters with you to see if you are receptive.

Guy here - geez, he's totally picked up on your attraction towards him. He also knows that since you have not rebuffed his playful advances/flirts = you're game to see where this leads. He's definitely playing the long game with you, slowly reeling you in and by all accounts, you are willingly do that. 
It's totally up to you, not him, what happens next.

He's a flirt who will always require attention and adoration from women, regardless of the woman he is dating/living with/married to ...

Inappropriate, creepy and he probably gets an ego boost from it.

So OP, you turn the conversation back to his girlfriend if he compliments you to signal, stop the bs, you have a girlfriend. You step away and give the non verbal cues for him to give you space, like he moves over your shoulder, you move your chair so he has space or ask him pull up the chair instead. If you’ve given a non verbal cue that he is not getting, then go direct and say, I need more personal space when I am working, it’s uncomfortable having someone over my shoulder. Basically, treat the situation as you would for a guy you either aren’t attracted to or that you wouldn’t want either him or other people to get the wrong idea about the two of you.

OP - unimportant to know his intentions. It's a waste of your time. You need to be looking for a quality man. And he's not it. 
He's not-man-enough to ask you out definitively, or be genuine. And I'm surprised you are making time for this silliness.

So you’ve had 5 pages of answers including he’s a creep, he’s being inappropriate at work, he likes to stroke his ego, he’s a jackass for flirting with someone when he has a girlfriend and he might be Joe Biden. 
None of those things lead to an amazing relationship, long or short term, with you. So using your adult 34 year old brain, what’s your thinking about what your next step might be?

You could just try being an adult...and communicating: 
“Bob, what’s going on? You’re very flirtatious and touchy with me. I admit that I like the attention a lot. But my understanding is that you have a girlfriend. And we’re at work. So again, what’s going on?”

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